Is "Me Time" Biblical?

I’ve heard a lot of talk about “me time” from moms lately and how it is essential in order to be healthy. To be healthy emotionally, spiritually and the list goes on. For some reason this notion did not sound Biblically accurate to me. So the question stands, is having “me time” Biblical?

From looking up Bible passages and praying about this growing thought that moms need time for themselves, I have discovered a few key points.

-          What does “me time” look like for you?

Is me time engaging in a hobby, sitting in silence, or pampering yourself? While there are many Bible verses about taking care of your body and being a good steward of what God has given you (1 Cor. 6:19-20, Romans 12:1), it is a heart issue. If you are fighting for “me time” to make it all about you then that’s not Biblical. Even in the end of 1 Corinthians 6:20 it says, “You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God with your body.” This passage definitely doesn’t say you were bought with a price so spend hours of your time and spend your money on doing things that give you pleasure. We are to glorify God with our bodies, because we are not our own. It also says in Luke 9:23 that, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.” That does not sound like a green light to go ahead and take some “me time”. Another aspect is that anything that we engage in can be used to glorify God. In Zachariah 14:20 even the mundane objects were used to glorify God. The verse says, “In that day shall there be on the bells of the horses, HOLINESS UNTO THE LORD; and the pots in the LORD's house shall be like the bowls before the altar.” So we can make whatever we are doing during “me time” to glorify the Lord if we have the right mind set. It’s all about what we engage in during our “me time” and how our hearts are postured.

-          Are you too busy in your day-to-day?

I have found that many times moms who desperately need “me time” are super overwhelmed in their lives. They take on too many responsibilities and have way too many obligations. Their children are all in multiple sports, they have something planned every night of the week, and are on a strict schedule. In recent years we have become so busy. It is a badge of honor to say you are just too busy and don’t have time to do anything. When did it become cool to not sleep, have our schedules rule us, and drink way too much caffeine? To me that sounds like a recipe for disaster and health problems. I read this quote once that said, “I don’t want to be too busy that I lose my smile”, and that makes so much sense. It is not cool to be busier than your neighbor or friend it is more of a burden on you. In Psalm 127:2 it states, “In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat – for he grants sleep to those he loves.” For many of us the solution for “me time” is simply getting rid of some obligations on our calendars. That way we are not so stressed out with our lives. We can just be with our kids and rest.

-          The ultimate "me time" that actually renews

Another point that I’ve realized while praying through the concept of “me time”, is that we don’t need “me time” we need “we time”. The “we time” is actually time with God. It is a big temptation and lie to think that “me time” would be way more beneficial than spending time with the Lord. In reality we would be more equipped for our day and ready to be selfless with our kids when we have that “we time”. All over scripture it points to the answer that God is the only one who upholds us and sustains us. Isaiah 40:31 says, “Yet those who wait for the LORD will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.” He is the living water (John 4:14), the light (1 John 1:5), and our protection (Isaiah 41:10). He is strength for the needy, weary, and the weak (Isaiah 40:29). So yes, reading the Bible, having a time of prayer, or just being still and silent with the Lord is way more beneficial. You are honoring God, building your relationship with him, and renewing you’re being. How much better could it get?

-          When does the Bible ever tell us to focus on ourselves?

This question is rhetorical, because the Bible doesn’t have a verse telling you to think and do things for yourself. That is the opposite of what the Bible says. It is the opposite of the way the apostles, and Jesus lived their lives. If Jesus ever went to lonely places by himself it was to be with God (Luke 5:16). Jesus never took “me time”. Through this point, I do understand that we are not perfect and we will be tempted to go get our nails done instead of having a quiet time when we get the chance. I get that and in this life we will never be perfect, but we should still strive to be like Jesus. We should still recognize that “me time” is not in the Bible, and we need to focus less on ourselves and more on the one who can actually restore us.