5 Crucial Disciplines as a Mom

Now that my daughter is just turning one this last week it has come to my attention that I need to reevaluate my relationship with God but also the disciplines that I put in place for my life. I am reading this Christian book, and it is all about spiritual disciplines. I am not even half was through the book but God has been convicting me of very specific areas in my life. There are five distinct points that God has brought to my attention. This list is not to beat myself up with or to feel the need to be perfect in, but it is something that I want to strive for in motherhood.

1. Personal Quite Time

Number one is having my own personal quiet time with the Lord in the morning daily. I think this is very crucial for the Christians walk. The word of God is a weapon and a gift that we are given. I have to admit it is very hard to get up before my daughter does every morning, but I know that I need to make that a commitment to God. My biggest drawback is the fact that my daughter wakes up normally from 2:30 AM to 6:30 AM, so I will just have to wake up around 5am every morning. If it comes to pass that I get an hour and a half in the word and prayer then that’s amazing! If I’m woken up before 5am then that’s ok too! All I know is God wants us to seek him with our whole hearts, and this is a tangible way to show him that. (Jeremiah 29:13)

2. Devotions With Kid(s)

Number two is setting aside time to have devotionals with my daughter. As of right now, my daughter can’t even talk yet, but this is a huge discipline for us. Not only does it carve out time so Roslyn can connect with God, but it also gives me individual time to pour into my daughter. I know that Roslyn cannot understand a lot of what we are learning or reading, but it is crucial to develop the habit. More than anything it is a discipline for me to remember each day. In Proverbs 22:6 it states, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” I want my child to know the way she should go, therefore I will make every effort to set aside that time with God.

3. Wholesome Speech

Number three is not cussing! This one for sure makes me look like a terrible mom, but yes I do have a problems with my words sometimes. Especially when I’m under stress, angry, or just stubbed my toe. I am sure other moms have the same issue or at least at the beginning of them having young ones. It is definitely a struggle and another discipline that I need to form. Looking up verses about this concept I was shocked about how many there are. I found a list of 37 scriptures that talk about our language and what we say. One that left an impression was Ephesians 4:29, “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.” I know for a fact that when I’m angry my words are not “grace to those who hear”, so this is something that I need to pray for. Another part of this concept is to hold all thoughts captive, which is a lot easier said than done. (2 Corinthians 10:5) We cannot stop cussing or even complaining if we do not hold what we are thinking captive. This takes a lot of self-control and discipline moment by moment.

4. Healthy Habits

Number four is a personal conviction that might not be for all mamas, but it is to be a vegetarian. In the last month I have felt convicted about what I eat. No, I did not watch a documentary about animal cruelty, or have a doctor tell me a need to cut out meat for health reasons. I did however listen to what God was telling me. Not to say that I haven’t watched those documentaries in the past, but that was not my primary drive to switch to no meat. I have never been a big meat eater, and I have always had the inkling to be a veggie. After about a week of not eating meat, I decided to do some research about why I felt so convicted. The results that I found were shocking, and I realized that there is a lot of Biblical reasons as well. No wonder God was convicting me. Besides the other resources I found, the two bible passages that stuck out to me were in Daniel and Genesis. The first verses are in Genesis with Adam and Eve. They never ate meat before the fall, and the first animal that was killed was when they sinned. For some reason that left a huge dent on my thought process of being a vegetarian. I really want it to be “on earth as it is in heaven”, and if when it was perfect we didn’t eat animals then so be it. The second passage is in Daniel when he is confronted by the King’s overseers and he says, "Please test your servants for ten days: Give us nothing but vegetables to eat and water to drink.” (Daniel 1:12) At the end of the ten days he is much stronger than the men who eat meat. Although I can say that I do eat other foods besides vegetables and drink other liquids besides water, I do feel that this passage pointed me to my ultimate decision. Overall, number four is to be healthier, and carry on healthy eating habits to your children.  

5. Missional Mindset

Number five is setting an example to put others first. This is definitely broad but there are a couple of sub headers for this one, and it manifests in different ways. That could be putting my husband first when I’m exhausted, or not getting frustrated while my 1 year old whines for hours on end. It could look like texting that friend that I know is having a hard week, or letting someone go ahead of me in line. Whatever it is, the main concept is to just put people first, and show your kids how to do that. The verse "So the last will be first, and the first will be last." In Matthew 20:16, is a great quick reminder to memorize whenever it is becoming hard to put others first.

All of these will definitely take a lot of prayer to stay faithful in, and obedience. I know I will stumble and can never be perfect in them, but it is comforting to know that God is not done with me yet.  My hope is that these have inspired you to seek for change, and grow in what God is sanctifying you in. Everyone’s convictions are different, but growing in your faith can only benefit your kid(s) not hurt them.